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communication, community, compassion, covid-19, empathy, exhaustion, expectations, food, friends, gifts, gratitude, holiday, illness, keeping calm, kindness, loss, love, meltdowns, memories, pandemic, parenting, working, worry -

Holidays can be a hard time for anyone, but 2020 may be the worst of all.

It's Thanksgiving Eve.

According to NYS Governor, Andrew Cuomo, in his November 23, 2020 press conference, the best way to show your extended family you love them, is to stay home. NYS has a mandated limit of 10 person get-togethers. We are supposed to eat outdoors, wear masks, and shorten the visits.

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Ember, emotions, expectations, Lisa Bullard, toddler, traveling -

Ember has squirmed and cried on our flights.

And breastfed with her feet kicking a minister in the seat next to us, and pooped mid-air.  To soothe my anxiety, I asked other moms for their best travel advice. Here are some of the useful tips I received.

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anxiety, breastfeeding, breastfeeding barriers, communication, Ember, emotions, expectations, instincts, Lisa Bullard, mama, mothering, nighttime parenting, nursing, weaning -

I have been thinking a lot about trusting my instincts as a mother.

Sometimes that is easier said than done, especially when someone in an authority position (a doctor, a teacher, a specialist,) or someone whose approval I seek (my mother, my partner, my friend,) is telling me that something I am doing, is wrong.

It can be enormously frustrating and it recently happened to me.

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communication, creation, Donna Bruschi, expectations, gratitude, grief, joy, mama, mothering, new baby, pregnancy, separation, spring -

By Donna Bruschi   You came to me as a small fish: frantic, untiring, unceasing Swimming upstream to the place of your birth Your only need, to reach the headwaters. At that moment, I knew and surrendered   And a spring deep inside me sprang. And I held you. You asked me to fill a pond and I did. In time, your incessant demands pushed forth a tiny stream. Droplets skittering over my being, your essence seeping into my dust Each day a new gush, another groove, cut and deepened And still you spurted forth, Carving me in ways I...

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community, compassion, creation, emotions, expectations, gifts, guilt, imperfection, kindness, love, mothering, new baby, parenting, transitions -

Who Loves YOU? Your baby, of course. Your partner, of course. Your friends... Of course! How about you? Do you love yourself? Most of us do, but probably not all the time. Maybe not even most of the time. Having a baby can exacerbate this lack of self love. Somehow, that little being brings out your worst: your impatience, your sadness, your anger, your low self esteem, your GUILT! You fall into the comparison trap. You see other mothers at their best. You watch TV shows and movies with "Mom Impersonators". Screen writers condemn and make fun of your very...

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